Finding real love when your schedule is absolutely insane
I’m literally sitting here on my lunch break—well, my 15-minute window between back-to-back calls—and I’m just totally glowing. I just got a delivery of my favorite spicy basil noodles because my partner knew I wouldn’t have time to grab anything today. It’s those small, consistent things that make me realize how incredibly lucky I am to have found someone who actually "gets" the pace of my life.
Rewind to about eight months ago. My life was a total mess of spreadsheets, client pitches, and late-night emails. I honestly didn’t think I had the "bandwidth" for anyone. Then I met Leo. From day one, he was incredibly proactive. He’d suggest specific times and places, he’d follow up right after dates to say he had a great time, and he was just… present.
Honestly, I panicked at first. As a professional, I’m used to people having hidden agendas or trying to sell me something. I kept waiting for the "catch." I was so worried it was love bombing because he was so enthusiastic. I mean, we’ve all heard the horror stories about people who come on way too strong just to vanish or turn toxic the second they have you hooked. I actually spent a night spiraling and googling the difference between a red flag and a green one. I found this guide that really helped me settle my nerves: https://www.sofiadate.com/dating-advice/love-bombing-vs-genuine-interest
What I realized was that Leo wasn’t trying to overwhelm me or control my time. He was just valuing my time. He saw that I was a busy person and he stepped up to make the logistics of dating easier, not harder. He wasn't demanding my attention; he was earning it by being reliable.
The most beautiful moment happened about three weeks in. I had a massive project launch and I had to cancel our dinner date at the very last minute. I felt terrible and expected the usual guilt trip. Instead, he showed up at my office lobby with a "survival kit"—a massive cold brew, a literal pile of protein bars, and a handwritten note that said, "Go kill it, I'm proud of you. See you when the dust settles." No pressure, no drama. Just pure support.
That was the moment I knew it was genuine interest. He wasn’t trying to be the center of my world; he wanted to be the best part of it. If you’re a high-speed person like me, don't be afraid of someone who shows they care early on. Sometimes, that "intense" energy is just someone who knows what they want and isn't afraid to put in the work. It’s so refreshing to finally be with someone who respects the hustle but makes the heart feel totally at peace. Dating doesn't have to be a chore or a game when you find someone who actually makes your life better! Totally worth the wait.